But we all know how people cheat. The real question is what drives women to cheat? We asked cheaters, a therapists who work with cheaters, and the founder of the No. 1 website for cheating spouses to give us their insights into why women cheat and the top ways to drive your girlfriend to cheat.

Why Do Women Cheat? No. 1: You give her a reason to retaliate

“There are many socioeconomic changes that have made many women the bread winners in their relationships. I am thinking of one patient in particular who was financially supporting her partner. As her frustration with his lack of ambition grew, she took it out passive-aggressively by cheating on him. With women, I think there is a common thread in most cases that is different than most men. women cheat in retaliation to something.”

– Alisa Ruby Bash, marriage and family therapist

Why Do Women Cheat? No. 2: Being are a bad lover

“I married too young. My husband was my first lover, so at around 30, I decided to have other experiences. In retrospect, it was partly because my husband was not such a great lover. In part, it was to gain personal liberation, take charge of my life, and not be hemmed in by someone else’s rules. OK, everyone else’s rules. But I do not feel guilty about it. It was not done to hurt him. It was all about me. Sounds trite, I know, but that’s the way it was. I had a series of lovers for about 15 years, and then got tired of the whole thing. But, given that I had married so young, I’m really glad I did it. This way, I do not feel cheated, compared to other women who slept around and then got married. I just did it in reverse.”

– Barb, 60

Why do women cheat? No. 3: You withhold love

“I think Old Ben Franklin summed it up best when he said, ‘Where there’s marriage without love, there will be love without marriage.’ Also, the song According to You by Orianthi sums it up well. Generally, I felt stupid, incompetent, etc. most of the time. He was rather controlling and critical. I then happened across someone (I was not looking at all) who made me feel like myself again. As the song says, “everything is opposite, I don’t feel like stoppin’ it. Baby, tell me what I got to lose. He’s into me for everything I’m not … according to you.’”

– Jamie, 40

Why do women cheat? No. 4: You stop being intimate

“For most women it comes down to being an object of desire — at one time they were wooed and wanted, so much so that a commitment of monogamy was made to one another — but now they find themselves virtually alone within their own relationship. Gone are the days of thoughtful compliments, being brought flowers and generally being paid attention to, and so really anyone finding themselves in that situation is going to encounter an almost biological drive to change their circumstance and, ultimately, stray. Digital ‘cheating’ options are wide and varied — from ashleymadison.com to facebook.com — and for some a cyber affair may be all that they need to re-validate that they are still desirable. However, for the majority of women who have found their lives devoid of intimacy, a physical affair — sex, perhaps with someone younger — is a lure they just cannot resist. In the end women need sex and intimacy in much the same manner that their male counterparts do and thus they too cheat!”

– AshleyMadison.com founder Noel Biderman

Why do women cheat? No. 5: You stop wooing her

“Right now my relationship is really a marriage of convenience. We’re only together for practical reasons like the mortgage. I seek out other men and other relationships because I need that daily validation, that intimacy that comes from dating and from being made to feel special. … My other relationships are about intimacy and friendship rather than just another roll in the hay.”

– Dawn, 51

I can’t stand my 10-year-old daughter. I was an 18-year-old single mother when she was born. I find her ugly and annoying. Everyone tells me how “sweet” and “pretty” she is, but I can’t see it. I dread when she comes home from school. I am not physically abusive to her — I would never do that. But I can be verbally abusive, and I know I need to stop. She just makes me so mad.

I am now married with two more kids (boys), and I adore them. What’s wrong with me? How can I fix this? I’m afraid it’s too late. I have no spiritual adviser to talk to, and I can’t afford to speak to a professional counselor.

Vicky, Atlanta,Ga
DEAR Vicky,

The circumstances of your daughter’s birth were very different from those of your sons. When you look at her, you might be reminded of a chapter in your life you would prefer to forget. How sad for both of you.

The way you treat her, particularly in relation to her half-brothers, will affect the way she perceives herself for the rest of her life. People whose parents treat them as unlovable often regard themselves as not “measuring up,” and it can cause self-esteem problems that last a lifetime.

Ordinarily, I would encourage you to seek low-cost therapy through your county department of mental health for the sake of both you and your daughter. If that isn’t possible, then I advise you to hold your tongue, control your temper and compel yourself to show your daughter approval and affection every day until it becomes a habit or she’s old enough to leave — whichever comes first.

Our 9-year-old daughter is the picture of sweetness and light when she visits other homes, but at home constantly screams, “Everybody in this family hates me!”

We tell her every day how much she is loved, she has her own room, plenty of toys etc. What’s the best way to help her?

Kayla, Austell,Georgia

Dear Kayla,
As wonderful as it is to tell your daughter that she’s loved and provide her with her own room and lots of toys, children feel loved when they know that they are cherished and appreciated for who they are.

Whatever words or material comforts you offer your daughter cannot convey the sense of connection with you that helps her know she is cherished. Feeling loved is intangible, fueled by a child’s sense that who they are — as is — lights up our hearts.
When was the last time you invited your daughter to go for a walk or play a game of UNO, just the two of you? How often do you tell her how much you love the way she tells a joke, or how you adore the tinkly sound of her laugh? Parents can get so caught up in the endless tasks of parenting that they forget how badly their children long to be seen and enjoyed by those most important to them.

I’m not surprised to hear that your girl is sweet and happy at other people’s homes. Kids are almost always on their best behavior when they’re not on their familiar turf. When she’s at home, her defenses are down, which is why she reveals her unhappy side to you.

After spending a bit of good time together, ask her to describe what goes on when words like, “Everybody hates me!” come out of her mouth. Don’t try to convince her that she’s wrong, or prove that her unpleasant behavior makes it hard to be nice to her; just listen with warmth and empathy.

If you can hang in there, she’ll eventually reveal the heart of the issue, whether it’s difficulties at school, frustration about sharing your attention with her siblings, or an insecurity that her personality isn’t as easygoing as the other members of the family. By truly listening to her and fortifying your connection, you’ll give your daughter the precious gift of knowing without question how much she is loved.

1- I wanna know if you go out with a man and the man always getting jealous for every little things, Do you think that man really loves me or not?
2 – Do you think a man who really loves you would be taking two to three weeks not talking to you?

Kathy, Douglasville,Ga

Dear Kathy,

To answer your first question, if a man gets jealous about things that you do, he doesn’t love you.   He loves himself.   You see, if a man loves you, he’ll do anything to make you happy.   If he loves himself, then YOU have to make him happy.   That’s how love works.  When you truly love someone, you will sacrifice anything and everything for that person.   As preacher would say, “Jesus Christ sacrificed his life because he loved you.“  That’s love.

As for your second question, if a man ain’t talking to you in two weeks, no way does he love you.  If you love someone you’ll do just about anything to be with them, talk to them, kiss them, etc.  You get the picture.   No way does this dude love you.

My husband and I have been married six years and have two wonderful children. Lately, my mother-in-law has made several comments in front of family members suggesting that one of our kids bears no resemblance to my husband — implying that I have been unfaithful.

At first, I took it as a joke. Now I’m wondering if she really believes it. My husband isn’t concerned, but I wonder if I should set her straight. What would you suggest? — NO LAUGHING MATTER

DEAR No Laughing Matter:

I would suggest you set your mother-in-law straight. To say that her remarks are tasteless is an understatement. Either she has a warped sense of humor or she has been watching too many soap operas. Talk with her privately and, if necessary, offer to have both your children DNA-tested to prove their “authenticity.” That may be the only way to stop her snide remarks once and for all.

Although it was removed from the Church’s calendar in 1969, the religious meaning coupled with Valentine’s Day’s roots in Roman paganism have allowed it to continue as a holiday for everyone.

Early Christians saw Valentine’s Day as a way to honor St. Valentine, of whom there were actually three. The Catholic Church recognizes three saints by that name, all who were martyred on February 14.

The St. Valentine the day is named for was, most likely, a priest in the 3rd century who performed secret marriages when the Roman Emperor Claudius II thought single soldiers were more likely to enlist in the army. That St. Valentine was imprisoned and executed on February 4, 270. It is believed he was responsible for giving the jailer’s blind daughter back her eyesight, and before his execution, he sent her a note saying, “From your Valentine.” The phrase is still widely used on valentines today.

It wasn’t until 1537 that St. Valentine’s day was declared an official holiday. England’s King Henry VIII, known for his ways of disposing of wives, declared February 14th a holiday. It was another century and a half before religious devotional cards became non-religious cards to reflect the change in the holiday.

In 496 A.D., February 14, was declared in the name of St. Valentine by Pope Gelasius. It remained a Church holiday until 1969, when Pope Paul VI took it from the calender.

On February 14, the ancient Romans celebrated the Feast of Lupercalia in honor of Juno, the queen of the Roman gods and goddesses. Juno was also the goddess of womesn and marriage so honoring her was thought to be a fertility rite.

At the feast held the next day, the women would write love letters and stick them in a large urn. The men would pick a letter from the urn and for the next year, pursue the woman who wrote the chosen letter. This custom lasted until the 1700s when people decided their beloveds should be chosen by sight, not luck.

The History of Valentine’s Day

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